The Truth | It’s Okay Not To Be Okay

 It’s okay......it’s okay to struggle, it’s okay to be real, it’s okay that you don’t always have your shit together. Life’s messy, especially when you live with some kind of chronic illness. Life isn’t all roses and champagne. Instead it’s full of messy houses, and dirty dishes. It’s full of down days where you can’t get out of bed, and high pain days. Life is real and that’s OKAY. When we live in a world of highlight reels and instagram perfect pictures it’s easy to forget that we live messy lives. It’s easy to compare yourself to others and feel inadequate in your own shoes. But let me tell you this, it’s okay!   It’s okay to not always be okay.  

It’s okay to cry when there is too much in your mind -  The clouds cry too when things get too heavy.” Amina Mehmood. 

I saw this quote recently and it  made me stop and think. It made me think about how we often try so hard to look like we have it all together, like our life is perfect. When in reality it’s far from it. But why? Why we do we do this to ourselves? Why do we want to hide the truth? Is it because we don’t want to appear weak? Or is it because we can’t face reality?  

 Oh It’s so easy these days to get caught up in the “perfect lives” you see on social media. It’s so easy to compare your life and what’s going on to what you see online. It’s also easy to forget that you are only seeing highlights. You aren’t seeing the everyday struggles, the constant pain that’s hidden behind the smiles of your favorite blogger. People don’t like to show the real stuff, they only show the good.  But we have to remember that everyone struggles. Everyone has down days, everyone has days where they don’t feel confident and that’s OKAY. In fact it’s beyond okay, it’s completely normal. 

 It's okay that the house isn't perfectly dusted.  It's okay that the floors aren't shiny, or vacuumed every other day.  It's okay if there is a little dog hair here or there.  It's okay if real life happens and is on display. 

 It’s okay that you don’t always have your shit together. No one is perfect, no matter what you see on Instagram. There are going to be days that things don’t go like we planned. There will be days when you just don’t want to talk to anyone, or climb out of bed, and that’s OKAY. You don’t have to hide that. You don’t have to pretend like everything is perfect. Everyone knows that you can’t be THAT positive and happy all the time , and it’s okay. You don’t have to hide your pain, or your fatigue. You need to be honest with yourself, and those around you, and let those around you see what life is really like. We can never expect people to understand the lives we live, with the issues we deal with, if we always hide what’s going on. We can never expect anyone to understand the daily struggles, and the ups and downs of living with a chronic illness if we don’t show what is really going on. If we don’t open up and let those around us see it all, and only show the highlight reels, we can’t expect people to understand what our lives are really like.  

 If you only show the highlight reel of life you can’t be upset when others don’t understand your life. If you aren’t real and open and honest you can’t expect that from anyone else. We have to remember that life isn’t perfect, there are bound to be peaks and valleys. Messy houses and dirty dishes, sad days and happy days, high pain days and low pain days, are all part of life when you live with a chronic illness.  That’s okay! There are going to be days when it hits the fan, and days when you everything goes according to plan. That’s okay! But no matter how you are feeling and what’s going on, be honest. You need to be honest with yourself and those around you about your messy imperfect life. Above all, please remember that’s it’s okay to not always be okay.  In fact, be okay with not being okay.

With Love,

Amber  & Amy